I am not going to get into the pros and cons of timeouts. We've played both sides of the fence and now use them sparingly - for many of the same reasons cited in the article. Trying to make an upset child take a timeout is upsetting, and we couldn't reconcile that with our parenting ideals. So, we've been working a different angle with some real success. Especially when you define success not as "a well-behaved child" but instead look at the whole picture. What does she like? What does he have to say? How can we work together to be part of a family? Do my kids trust me? Are my kids getting the things they need? What are my children capable of?
The article at Slate (thanks Sean!)